Travelling through the land of Blog

After writing this morning's post, I spent some time outside soaking up the sunshine just like I said I would.  It was a beautiful sunny blue sky sprinkled with fluffy white clouds sort of day. One of those kinds of days where you can't help but smile and rejoice in being alive.  But of course with all things good, there has to be the not quite as good, not bad mind you, just not quite as good. Yeah I said that again, for emphasis I suppose.  Sitting out there with the sun beating down on me, I had to wonder why is it so hot today?  Why is it 85 degrees ? It's the middle of March for crying out loud !  Oh, yeah, I forgot, I live in Florida, the land of eternal summer.   I had forgotten about that since we had a nice cool winter.  I thought I had moved to another state, maybe Georgia or Alabama. I think they have seasons of sorts.

I came back inside and started reading blogs. I don't know if any of you do this, but I like to travel the blog world and find places I have never seen before. It's kind of like taking a long drive down the back roads with no destination in mind .  Sometimes you just drive and see nothing worthwhile and then suddenly you come to this little town or village or countryside and you see something that makes you stop and want to explore.  You end up walking up and down and all around the area taking it in and enjoying every minute of it .

That's what happens to me when I travel through the land of blog. I usually glance through a few and then I find one that really catches my eye and I get drawn in.  I start reading and keep going back and back into the archives discovering a treasure trove of talent.  The sad thing is, most of the time when I find these places, I find that person blogged for five years and then suddenly they just stopped and a year or two or three have gone by without a word.  I always wonder what happened ?  How can someone with so much literary talent just stop one day ?  Did they grow bored? Did they run out of ideas?  Did they die ?   If they died, I wonder if their family knew they wrote like this ? And did they appreciate the talent this person had?  

I'm always running across blogs written by self proclaimed grumpy old men .  Oddly enough, they are always so funny, I can't imagine this person is really a curmudgeon .  Maybe blogging is a way to let off steam for them or to show their inner nice guy who has a sense of humor.   I know how some men are, they have to keep up their image .  And once they put out that grumpy old man image, they don't want anyone to know they are really just big teddy bears wearing masks.  

Grumpy old women blogs are not as funny. They are usually grumpy and full of complaints. But I've run across some good blogs written by funny old ladies and I love those kind.   You know, we women, well some of us, spend a lot of our life trying to be all prim and  proper . There are certain things we just don't say or talk about.  The kids you know, we have to set a good example for the kids.   But kids grow up and then we can be ourselves.  We can say and do outrageous things because  well, we have lived long enough and earned the right to do what we want and say what we want.  And if we go a little too far, we can claim we are losing our minds, we have become senile and don't realize or remember saying or doing those things.    And then we just laugh because we know full well what we just said or did.  We don't have to keep up an image anymore.  

When I turned 50 a couple of years ago........ok a decade ago. I told my daughter I was going to stop worrying about what people think. I was going to be who I was and if they didn't like it, they could jump into the Indian River for all I cared.  For the most part though, I behave myself in public places.

But here, in the land of blog, I can say what I want . I can be crazy and silly and there is nothing anyone can do about it.  Well that's not quite true. That depends on where you blog.  But here, on Blogger, I have this wonderful audience of readers who seem to tolerate my silliness quite well. 

Just know I appreciate each and every one of you.

That moment (don't let it slide, let it go}

Do you ever let something slide, and let something slide, and let something slide, even though it is a knife twisting in your side, you just keep letting it slide and slide and slide ?

And then one day, you finally have that moment,  that one big moment where you just won't let it slide anymore , a big "OK THAT'S IT"  moment , an "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH" moment,  an "I'M NOT GOING TO DEAL WITH THIS ANYMORE" moment.

And you tell yourself  "Im done letting it slide, I'm just done with it period" , but deep down you wonder if you are really done and you know the only way to really be done is to just be done with it.

But the only way you will know if you are done with it, is to see it happen again and not let it affect you and you don't feel a thing because you are so done with it that you have finally detached .

And now you can look at it but not even see it anymore because it no longer exists in your reality like so many things you walk right by and never notice.

I had that moment today, not thirty minutes ago, and now I am done, I am so done.  

And now I am going out to soak up the sunshine, live in the moment, the good moment, and breathe the fresh air till I drown in the goodness of it all.  And the only things I am going to let slide, are the cares of the world because for me, today is going to be a good day .

And I wish the same for you, my friends .  Go live in the moment and make it a good one.

And don't forget to Love, sincerely and not just conveniently.

~Lia 3/15/2015

honesty, such a lonely word

For the most part, I tend to accept people and all of their flaws , because we are after all, flawed humans. And I myself have many faults and flaws, so how can I expect more from others than what I have to offer ?   Besides, perfect people are arrogant . Arrogant  in that they only imagine themselves to be perfect .

There is one thing that I expect from people, myself included, and that is "honesty" .  Honesty in all things, not just the things we want to be honest about.  I've often been told that it is better to withhold the truth than to hurt someone with the truth.  I disagree. Truth is sometimes painful, but that is a pain we can,  for the most part, rise above and heal from.

I can accept painful truths.

What I cannot accept are lies and evasions .  A lie is a lie is a lie and there really are no such thing as pretty white lies.  Lies hurt and they hurt much worse than painful truths, because to me, it is very difficult  to rise above the pain brought on by a lie.  And it destroys trust . And I think we would all agree that once trust is destroyed, it is difficult to rebuild it.  I think this is why so many relationships fail.

And then we have evasions.  Some people do everything they can to avoid the truth. When asked about something or caught doing something, they  will run around in circles trying to evade the obvious rather than just being honest and speaking the truth, painful or not.  Evasions , in my opinion, are nothing more than lies that aren't spoken. And evasions, in the end, only postpone the painful truth.  I would rather get it out of the way so we can rise above and move on.

Honesty, it's such a lonely word.

that awkward moment

I'm not in the best of moods this morning but I won't bore anyone with the details .  So I am just going to do a post where I don't have to think real hard about anything. Hahaha, not that I think real hard anyway.  But it is safer if I don't say much of anything right now because this shall pass .

So anyway, I think we all have awkward moments in our lives and judging by the amount of these things I keep seeing online, just about everything in the world makes someone feel awkward somewhere.


There are so many of these, I might just make it a regular feature here on my blog . That way I don't have to think too much ~~

I used to belong to another blogging site which is full of toxic idiots and this was a typical response from so many of them.  Never ever join that site, there is nothing redeemable about it in spite of what some people try to tell you because they want to justify swimming around in the septic tank. Sorry to those who are still there, but truth is truth.

This is why I have to explain some of the blogs I write. People just don't get it, which means they are the stupid ones.  Ooops, my mood is showing here. Sowwy :-)

I'm expecting this to happen today since someone is the problem ....

Yeah, I did that for about two years for some stupid reason. Oh well....

This is a pretty common one and it happens to me more often than I would like to admit. But I take comfort in the fact that it happens to almost everyone, young or old.

This is another one that goes with the people on that other site. They do this all the time, failing to realize they are just as annoying as the people they complain about.  Heck I was probably annoying too to some of them. Hey yes, I was, I was annoying because I was too nice .  

This happens to me on occasion. That is why I have a dictionary and actually use it. 

Hahahaha, I will never have to worry about this one.  

This is why I hate those "about me" sections .  Besides that I don't like to brag about my PhD !

This one is for you Skipper !!!

Outside my window

Yesterday my internet went down and I resorted to gazing out my window at the feathered friends who come to visit me three times a day like clockwork.   

I have a pair of cardinals that I love to watch but they don't sit still so I have a hard time capturing them and I don't dare open the door so I can get a clear shot of them, so I have to take pictures through the window.   

Yesterday they sat fairly still so I was able to get a shot of both the male and female. 

Yes, I love birds as you all well know. I don't think I will ever grow tired of watching them.  I will probably die sitting at my window watching the birds !